One Bounce Too Many

Does anyone besides me have troubles with their kids? It seems to never end. Its one thing right after another and unfortunately mine are 13 and 14 years old so I’m afraid this has just begun. I mean we’ve all heard about the teenage years and obviously those of us that are adults have gone through them but I have never experienced anything so disheartening as this.

I remember all my mothers friends talking about their teenage kids when I was growing up but never did I think that I behaved in such a way as my kids do on a regular basis. It’s not that they’re bad kids, not at all they’re really good. The thing I have trouble with at least for me has to do with responsibility. It seems so obvious to me that it’s time for them to take responsibility.

I mean my son for instance, has had the chore of taking out the trash for seven years. We started training him as a child when we lived in an apartment. But now even as a 13-year-old teenager he has to be reminded on a daily basis to take out the trash and not only that but to take out all the trash. What I mean is, he will get the kitchen trash and leave the bathroom trash. Am I missing something here? Why would he not remember to get all the trash?

And then there’s my daughter she’s 14 and she’s a good girl. Her one and only chore is laundry she is to do two loads five days a week as her contribution to the family. But invariably she only gets one load done. Again, help me understand how hard can it be to do to loads of laundry it’s not like we’re going to the stream with a washboard.

So there is my dilemma, my drama for the week. I just don’t know what to do with these kids. Maybe I should be happy I mean it’s not like they’re running in the streets and taking drugs. They even go to church and participate in all the activities so for that I’m very happy but there’s this one sticking point. Responsibility! Why don’t my children want to take responsibility?

Probably when I’m another 10 years older and they are out on their own I’ll have some more answers but for the next 10 years I suppose I’m going to struggle with the age-old dilemma of having teenagers.

Two weeks into my friends tummy tuck post op recovery she told me that she wasn’t sure she would do it again.  If there’s one thing that talking with my friends and reading online has told me it’s that people who have cosmetic surgery or maybe more importantly people who have tummy tucks are not fully aware of the discomfort that they are embarking on.

It’s not the intensity that seems to be the driving force behind the temporary reversal in attitude, it seems to be the nearly unending nature of the pain.  I think the problem stems from the fact that many people may not fully realize the extent to which a tummy tuck is invasive to the body.  A persons whole torso is invaded and large portions are removed including in some cases the tightening of major mid-frame muscles.

Doctors can do much to alleviate the pain and discomfort through several means at their disposal.  Of course pain relief medication is always an option, compression garments can help to some degree and now some doctors are even prescribing pain pumps similar to those used by patients with major diseases like cancer.

These pumps allow the patient to control how much medication is administered at any given moment depending on the pain they feel.  They can be very effective for those who have had major surgery even if it’s cosmetic surgery.  Apart from the financial consideration of a tummy tuck the avoidance of pain is probably the second largest reason people choose not to have the surgery.

Think about it, if money was not the issue and pain was not the issue the risk reward ratio tilts heavily in favor of having the surgery.  Once doctors figure out how to eliminate the pain of tummy tuck post op they will have gone a long way in opening up new markets for their surgical product.

In my humble opinion the pain should not be the determining factor for whether or not to pursue a tummy tuck.  There are far more important factors to be considered and weighed when the decision has to be made.  My advice would be to seek multiple professional opinions about your individual situation and find out what they have to say about tummy tuck post op recovery in the conversation.

In way of disclaimer, I want to make it clear I am not a medical doctor nor have I had medical training and the advice or recommendations in this post should in no way be used in lieu of competent medical advice.  Please consult your trusted medical provider for the latest and most accurate information about tummy tuck post op recovery and procedure.

Oh, I’m so angry.  I finished this whole post and right as I was about to start editing it something happened, it disappeared and here I am at 11:45 p.m. re writing the post.  I hate when that happens.  Especially when what I had to say seemed important at least to me.

I was trying to say something profound.  Something like how our common experiences bond us together and create some sort of metaphysical unity between each human being on this planet.  It was really deep… ha ha.

Now I suppose since the inspiration is gone, you’re going to have to put up with a normal post from me.  Really it was deep, I swear! I had it all planned no actually it just flowed out of me and that’s the best when your writer or at least you want to be a writer and you have those moments when things just seem to work.  Oh well I guess the writing gods did not want me to release this highly sensitive information.  It has now buried itself in my subconscious probably never again to see the light of day.

I guess the best I can do is to promise that someday if it ever comes to surface again I’ll post it here with the footnote to this post where it was originally lost.

Finding things to write about that I think you as my potential readers, might want to read or at least be interested enough to look at the title can be a tough almost full time job.

I often find inspiration from the everyday common things that happen to me. For instance today my wife had taken the day off work and was sick in bed and I went out to service a client. On the way home I stopped and did some grocery shopping since I knew it may be a while before she could go again.

To my surprise, I got home and my wife is unloading the car of groceries. She knew I was busy and we really needed some things so she drug herself out of bed and went to the store.

So here we are both spent about $100 and got some of the same food. We have enough hamburger to feed an army now. I had to freeze some of it. There is no way we could eat it fast enough to use it up. I am 48 years old and have been married for approximately 22 years of my life (cumulative, but that is another story) and that has never happened to me. Now there is a story.

Have you ever thought that you really wanted to do what was right even when no one was looking. Just because it was the right thing to do. Think about that for a minute. No more gaming the system for your benifit. No more doing it just because you think you can get away with it and no one will know. Just tell the truth and do the right thing. What a different way to live.

I want to structure my life so that I can live that way. It is hard, or at least it has been hard for me up to this point. Don’t get me wrong, I am not a cumpulsive lier of a theif or anything like that but sometimes I admit it is just easier to take a shortcut. But I have been thinking a lot about it lately and it just doesn’t feel right to do so. It feels better to do the right thing no matter how tired I am or what it costs or even when no one knows.

Now just so I don’t bring bad bragging karma on myself I have not really been tested with this… I mean there have been no hot Latin ladies throwing themselves at me (my ultimate test) but just a feeling I have been having lately that I wanted to write about.

In the same vein as the last post about the total coolness of the things you can do online and the security measures that are in place I found out something else about PayP*l today that I didn’t know. If i am not careful I may become a PayP*l evangelist but I promise not to give an alter call at the end of each PP sermon… but I digress.

PP has a download that you can get that will allow you to put in your payment info like you shipping address and mailing address and then the really cool part they will generate you a one time use Mastercard number so you can pay for stuff online with your PP account even if the merchant does not take PP. Is that cool or what? So if you have some money that you made selling stuff online and now you have a need to buy some stuff online but they don’t take PP you can still do it. Just place your order like always but then when you get to the payment part PP will generate you a Mastercard number and expiration date and even the code on the back of the imaginary card for you to use one time on that site to place that order.

I don’t know about you but I am jazzed by my new discovery. I think it is time to go shopping…

OMG, it takes a bit to get used to online security! I was doing some unusual business on PayP*l today and I had to jump through a bunch of hoops. First I had to talk to customer service and once we figured out what I was doing with them, they emailed me a form to fill out and sign. Then I had to fax it back as it is part of their security not to accept an email with the document so i could not scan it and attach it to the return email.

So I had to print the email out, fill out the form, scan it into my computer along with a scan of my drivers lic and my social security card. I combined the two scans into one pdf that i could fax with a online service and then send it. In all it took me about 20 minutes after I finished with them on the phone. At first I was a little miffed that it took so much to accomplish all this and then I got to thinking what a great thing it was for me to be setting here in my home and to be able to accomplish all this. I literally could be anywhere in the world right now and get it done. If I were in Spain and needed to do this at my local bank in California, I would be screwed probably but with less time than it would take me to drive to the bank I have done it all from where ever I am. That is fantastic!

I’m a little frustrated right now as my business is going kinda slow but I do think there is a lot of potential for it to take off if I can only figure out some of the technical aspects that are holding me back. You see I have a computer repair business and I am really good at what I do but the problem I have is a marketing one and a time factor.

I don’t really like marketing too much and I would much rather be working on computers, that is where my passion lies. I love to tinker with the parts and figure out what is going on with one that is not quite running right. I also love learning about new stuff too. It seems there is not end to the number of things that are computer related that one in my position can learn about.

I am constantly on the look out for new tricks and tips that I can try out on my customers computers and my own for that matter. I love tweaking it to make it run better and to get it smooth and fast. In fact, I just doubled the memory in my computer. Well not yet but I ordered the memory and it should be here in a week or so and I can hardly wait.